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This Just Can't Be Summer Love...

       As Justin Timberlake rightly said, "This just can't be summer love."  Even a world-famous pop star knows there's a difference between love and "summer love."  As the summer begins for most of our middle school students, you may see those hormones start to flare up!  Girls start to notice boys a little more and the eyes of most boys start to open as the dress code changes.

       I've spoken to local teachers and administrators and they also notice a little tension with boys and girls leading up to the last few weeks of school and into the first few weeks of summer.  It becomes the last chance for boys to talk to a girl without seeing her consistently over the summer.  Or its the last chance for the girl to get that boy to notice her.

       These may seem like "just" middle school or high school relationships (and they are!), but they're also real to the students at that moment in time.  So it could be a good time to talk about the relationships they will have in the future and how to go about having them.  Here are a few articles I find interesting regarding relationships.  They're obviously geared towards an older audience, but they can lead to helpful conversations with Middle School students.

Discussion questions with MS students: What do you think about MS/HS relationships? What kinds of things do you think you'd like in a potential spouse? What are some essential qualities? What are some non-essential qualities?

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The Mind of a Teenager

       What is going on inside that kid's brain?!?!  I'm sure we've all thought that at one point or another.  A recent article about this very subject tries (key word, TRIES) to shed light on what's actually going on inside the head of a 12-year-old, specifically in girls.

       A few main interesting points from the article:

  • Feeling centres beneath the cortex are actually more sensitive in teens than in children or adults.
  • Emotional input rings like a gong for teenagers and a chime for everyone else - in other words, they are VERY influenced by the feelings of those around them.
  • Studies find that hormones respond to, or may even be trumped by, other factors that influence your daughter’s mood, such as stressful events or the quality of her relationship with you (the parent).
  • Teenagers often manage their feelings by dumping the uncomfortable ones on their parents.
  • Instead of being rude or aggressive toward peers or teachers at school, your daughter contains her irritation and waits until she is safely in your company to express it. (This is why some parents may hear that their child is an "angel" or "saint" from peer, coaches, or teachers and immediately think, "well they're the devil at home!"

       To check out the whole article, click on the link below:

  • http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/parenting/drama-queens-whats-really-going-on-in-a-teenage-girls-head/article28549947/

Discussion questions with MS students: Do you feel like you're influenced by your peers thoughts/feelings? Is there someone you feel comfortable "dumping" your feelings on? What do you think about some of these main point claims?

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